girlfriends

[stupidjet]

i had a girlfriend, who i was going to propose to soon,,,we are no longer together. it's been 2 months now. i'm still sooo depressed. thats why i've been so into fishing now, try and take my mind away from it. but man, it still hurts a lot. a lot more than i thought it would. is time the only answer or is there a magic pill that i'm not aware of b/c alcohol doesnt help like it should....? man...

[Big E]

Ummmm yeah you should fish more often. Only time can heal your pains. Love lost and love will be found again. Just hang in there and go fishing. As the saying goes, "there are plenty fish in the sea".

[EugeneChoe]

hahaha as big-e would say.. "love hurts" haha

[Singletjeff]

I went through a divorce in 2000/2001. My exwife walked out with my two daughters....Be glad she did it before she could take something away from you when she left.....All I can say is it sucks bad, but as time passes so will the feelings.....I could be totally crass and tell you to find a rebound piece, but that will only distract you temporarily. Just keep getting out there doing something you love, and remember that you don't have to ask permission to do it anymore.....good luck and hang in there.

[the rhondel]

stupidjet.....you can never,ever UNDERESTIMATE the STUPIDITY of the female species.......get back with the program,dig in....its her loss!......now go spread your joy to the thousands of other eager broads out there;) ....the R

[RuddeDogg]

Pick up the pieces nd move on. Hey look at it this way, which is what I do. You were fine before her and you'll be fine after her. Yeah it hurts. You wouldn't be human if it didn't. Don't dwell on it. You WILL find someone else or who knows ya might end up back together. But I will say this....next time it should be on YOUR TERMS. I have been divorced since 1995. I have dated nad was even engaged once. BUT.....it wasn't on my terms. I am the way I am. I hunt and I fish. I work 12 hour shifts and I am a vounteer firefighter. If they can't deal with that then they can step off. Kim, the girl I'm with now that just about everyone here calls BossDogg is the perfect example. Been together for 5 years. Bork up once and got back together but on MY TERMS. You'll be fine. It just takes time.

[GhostCrab]

No pill, and don't drink too much. As you can see in the responses, everyone has gone through something similar... and they're all fine now, AFAIK:).

Yeah it will take time so find something positive to pass the time, i.e. fishing at new spots etc. Also, go out and try something new and different... take a vacation somewhere!

[fishdrummer]

I was engaged once. She broke it off and I was devastated. Then I lived with a gorgeous blonde for 2 years and we split. Didn't hurt so bad that time. Then I found and married the most perfect, beautiful woman I have ever met. Twentyfive years later and still going strong and she is still beautiful, even after having my 2 great kids. Now I look back at how silly it was for me to lose someone who was not really a good match for me anyway. Believe me, someone else will show up in your life.

[Fishbreath]

SJ,

A good friend of mine once told me a pearl of wisdom sung by the great B.B. King. It goes something like...

"...one on my arm,
....one on my mind,
....one up ahead,
....one left behind..."

These are words to live by until you find "THE" one. Until then, keep fishing and keep on working to make yourself the best person you can be for yourself. ;)

FB

[lipyanker]

SJ

Hang in there.

[fyremanjef]

Hang in there. I got divorced in July after being with her for 8 years dated for 3 married for 5.(at 33 that was a 1/4 of my life). It sucks, but things get better. Once you are out and about. and REBOUND, you will begin to feel better. The songs that remind you of her will soon become just songs. That special place you used to go to eat will be just another restaurant.

Avoid the alcohol. Take it from me, it may numb the pain but the hurt is still there. and if you get too numb, you tend to drink more. Then the downward spiral begins.

go fishing, enjoy the peace and quiet. and like it was said before, you dont have to ask or answer to anyone.

Live it up, learn from your mistake and move on.

[Big Rad]

The strong give up and move on.....The weak give up and stay.....

You have got to realise that your worth is greater than what you feel it is now. I used to use a line " why are you trying to make me get rid of you" when my woman was acting up. It worked because I new my worth and dealt fom a position of confidence and strength.

With a ratio of men to women so high, you'd think that you would find another good-un...

You haven't because you are lazy. You got to know that woman and found you could live with her faults. Get up off yo azz and get back in the hunt. In fact go out with a less than beautiful chick. The honeys will be trying to steal you from her;)

[stupidjet]

thanks guys..yeah, i feel i lost 4.5 years of my life. ive been out with my buds a few times out ont he town, but i just dont want to hook up with someone else...i compare them to her and they always lose...she was drop dead gorgeous. shit, i dont even remember how to hit on girls...

[Singletjeff]

i dont even remember how to hit on girls...

Ain't that the truth.....I wouldn't know how to pick up a chick in the red-light district anymoer :eek:

[oldsalt]

Originally Posted by stupidjet
i don't even remember how to hit on girls...


Been there done that! Don"t worry it will all come Back and be better then before.:) :)

[Orest]

...she was drop dead gorgeous.

Remember beauty is only skin deep and does not last forever. I'll take brains over looks any day.

[ishootback]

Remember beauty is only skin deep and does not last forever. I'll take brains over looks any day.

Remember, beauty is only skin dep, but UGLY goes clear to the bone.:rolleyes:

[combatcatcher]

In a matter of a week I was laid off from Etrade during the crash of Aug 02 then the same weekend found out the girl I was living with for 2 years and getting ready to propose to was cheating on my with a navy squib.So I did the only logical thing I joined the Army got my head and body right found the wife I have today and got to fight in a war. Its not the best solution but it did keep me distracted.
In all honesty stay away from the bottle it only compounds the issues and get back out there, time heals.

[ishootback]

thanks guys..yeah, i feel i lost 4.5 years of my life. ive been out with my buds a few times out ont he town, but i just dont want to hook up with someone else...i compare them to her and they always lose...she was drop dead gorgeous. sh*t, i dont even remember how to hit on girls...

Memories of past loves can be deceiving. We remember what we want, and forget the rest.

I dated a singer in my younger days. She was a real knockout. I am glad I spent time with her. Kind of like having at least one really fast hot car when you are young. I am glad that I did not marry her though. Beautiful women are usually very high maintenance when they get a few years on them...Not all are, but many. Clothes, makeup, $150 haircuts every month, then coloring every other month, manicures, pedicures...YIKES.

Get back in the game and have some fun.

[Fishman]

Dont worry when you wake up the nightmare will be over. :D