Bigfisherman
04-20-2009, 07:52 AM
It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder
for them to maintain
the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice
this, try to show some
understanding. My name is Wayne , and let me relate how I handled the situation
with my wife, Beverly.
When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Bev to get a full time
job along with her part-time
job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age.
I usually get home from
the golf course about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows
how hungry I am,
she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts
dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake
me when she gets dinner on the table.I generally
have lunch in the Men's Grill at the country club, so eating out again at night
is not reasonable. I'm
ready for some home-cooking when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating, but now it's not
unusual for them to sit
on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically
reminding her
several times each evening that the dishes won't clean themselves. I know she
really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before
she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining. For example, she will say that it is
difficult for her to
find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em
for better or worse,
so I just smile and offer encouragement.
I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't
have to rush so much.
I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her
any
(if you know what I mean). I like to think that this is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had
to take a break
when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm
a fair man. I tell her to
fix herself a nice , big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit
for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well
make one for me, too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Bev, and I'm not
saying that showing this
much consideration is easy. Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women
get as they get older, but, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and
less criticism of your aging wife because of this letter, I will consider that
writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each
other.
Signed,
Wayne
EDITOR'S NOTE:
Wayne died tragically on March 1st of a perforated rectum. The police report
says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf
club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and with a
sledge hammer lying nearby.
His wife Beverly was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took
only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Wayne
somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.
for them to maintain
the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice
this, try to show some
understanding. My name is Wayne , and let me relate how I handled the situation
with my wife, Beverly.
When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Bev to get a full time
job along with her part-time
job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age.
I usually get home from
the golf course about the same time she gets home from work. Although she knows
how hungry I am,
she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts
dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake
me when she gets dinner on the table.I generally
have lunch in the Men's Grill at the country club, so eating out again at night
is not reasonable. I'm
ready for some home-cooking when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating, but now it's not
unusual for them to sit
on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically
reminding her
several times each evening that the dishes won't clean themselves. I know she
really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before
she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining. For example, she will say that it is
difficult for her to
find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em
for better or worse,
so I just smile and offer encouragement.
I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't
have to rush so much.
I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her
any
(if you know what I mean). I like to think that this is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had
to take a break
when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm
a fair man. I tell her to
fix herself a nice , big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit
for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well
make one for me, too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Bev, and I'm not
saying that showing this
much consideration is easy. Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women
get as they get older, but, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and
less criticism of your aging wife because of this letter, I will consider that
writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each
other.
Signed,
Wayne
EDITOR'S NOTE:
Wayne died tragically on March 1st of a perforated rectum. The police report
says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf
club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and with a
sledge hammer lying nearby.
His wife Beverly was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took
only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Wayne
somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club.